While you know you can’t change others, you can change yourself, which then changes the dynamics of all your relationships. I want you to understand that people can not really hurt you. They can only touch the hurt that is already inside of you. Knowing this can help you see your relationships with more compassion.
What you experience as hurt is really an internal wound being aggravated by someone. This aggravation triggers a past memory with all the blockages, emotions and beliefs created by that memory. Then, through habit, you allow yourself to get pulled into someone else’s drama.
When you notice a pattern of hurt coming up for you in a relationship watch where the hurt takes you, what memory is coming up? Feel into it without going into the drama of the event.
Becoming aware of your tender spots frees you from blame and upset. Healing the energy of a wound stored in your memory releases the blockages, emotions and beliefs created by these memories; then you are free to lead from the heart, no longer being hurt by others and being pulled into their drama.