How to liberate yourself from your limiting negative inner dialog and mental habits by becoming more aware of your automatic response mechanisms and consciously decide to tell a different story that does not sabotage your happiness.
Just remember this quote by Deepak Chopra – “If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up. ”
What is the ego?
The ego is a false identity of our own construction. Examine the beliefs of who you think you are – your personality, talents, and abilities. This is the structure of your ego. These talents, abilities and aspects of your personality will be components of your skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. This is a dynamic part of your personality, playing an huge role in creating emotional drama in your life.
So here are some effective methods on how you can transcend your ego so you are not caught up in a world of negative melodrama!
1. PRAISE A HIGHER POWER
If people compliment you, don’t accept their praise through the realm of your heart. Just say thank you very much but then give the credit to your higher power. You can do this verbally if you like but but it is best to offer her the credit from your heart. Perhaps say, “Thank you Universe.”
If another person receives the credit for something that you have achieved, try not to look for a way of letting people know who the credit really belongs to. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. A much greater freedom will be your reward if you offer all of the credit to your higher power.
2. RELEASE IMPULSIVE REACTIONS
If someone berates you for something you didn’t do, you might jump straight on the defence and announce that you are not to blame. The truth of the matter is that doesn’t really matter who did it. The best way to respond is to say nothing as you will take the moral higher ground.
3. LET OTHERS SPEAK
If you notice someone who is keen to express their opinions, be thoughtful, allow them to speak. It’s always best to hold off verbalising your own thoughts unless someone is genuinely interested in hearing what you have to say. Don’t waste your breath.
4. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
You don’t owe anyone an explanation of who you are or what you do so avoid the trap of trying to justify your existence. Instead, simply let your actions and your inner wisdom be your voice.
5. AVOID MENTAL COMPETITION
It is never wise to position yourself in mental competition with anyone, especially without a good enough reason. Stop trying to justify your accomplishments. Whatever you’ve achieved, give it to your higher power!
6. NEVER IMPOSE YOUR VALUES ON OTHERS
Stand up for what you believe in, but clarify that you are not trying to impose your own set of values on anyone else. You can’t change other people, no matter how hard you try.
7. STOP SELF-GLORIFICATION
Avoid bragging about how good you are at something to gain another persons approval. In a lot of cases they may actually find it off putting.
8. DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP
Don’t feel badly if you make a mistake. Own it, at least to yourself.
Just announce “The mistake was made.” The Universe is the Doer. Give her the blame as well as the credit for everything. Then try not to make the mistake again.
9. ENJOY BEING UNIMPORTANT
Don’t allow your mind play with the thought of flattery, greatness or importance. Reject firmly any thought of self-importance, self-praise, self-justification or blame.
This is essential to your salvation because liberation depends upon letting go of ego-consciousness.
10. AFFIRM THAT YOU CAN DO IT
There’s no such thing as can’t. Remember, the universe is capable of anything. If you give her the opportunity she can accomplish anything through you. Ask her for the inspiration, guidance, and the courage to achieve your goals and dreams.