One of the biggest issues that affect our ability to become the greatest version of ourselves is perception and mindset.
Many of us feel that there are forces beyond our control that make us the way we are, put barriers in our way and stop us from reaching the destiny we feel that we were born to achieve. But the reality is, you are in charge of your own destiny. And until you accept that you are responsible for what happens to you in life, you will always feel restricted.
As an aside, it is important to acknowledge that terrible things can happen to us at no fault of our own. We are, technically, victims of these events. But we don’t have to live as victims. We can take back our power and take control of our own destiny.
We only become victims (or tell ourselves we are victims) when we subscribe to a victim mentality and tell ourselves and the world that the reason that we cannot move forward, become who we want to be or be happy is because certain life events or circumstances
“If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.”
How To Banish Your Victim Mindset So You Can Finally Be Happy & Free
1. Understand Why You Need To Banish This Mentality
The first step to ridding yourself of your victim mentality is realizing why it’s so detrimental in the first place.
Subscribing to a victim mentality, whether conscious or subconscious, allows your mind to write a false narrative about who you are and what you can achieve in your life. It imposes limits and restricts what you can and can’t do. It holds you back from real happiness, abundance and joy in your life.
No matter why you feel this way, by allowing it to even have a small say in the way you live your life, you are giving away your power.
By living in a perpetual state of self-preservation, you don’t allow yourself to go beyond your comfort zone, take risks or trust yourself. And, that’s where the magic happens. If you never allow yourself to access the magic, you’ll miss out on some of the things that you absolutely deserve in life.
2. Realize You Don’t Have To Be A Victim
One of the most difficult things to face is knowing that you don’t have to be a victim. If something terrible has happened to you in the past, someone has wronged you or you’ve experienced something that has affected you in a negative way, it can be difficult to see yourself as anything but.
But it’s vital that you understand that you can be whatever you want to be, and you can channel your experience for good, even if you’ve experienced deep trauma. It starts with telling yourself that you’re not OK with being a victim.
3. Take Responsibility
Depending on your personal circumstances and trauma, it may be time for you to face the role you played in the things that have happened in your life. If you’re someone who constantly blames others for your misfortunes, it might be time to point the finger inwards.
This is tricky territory though, as ‘taking responsibility’ is more profound and deep than saying ‘ok, well it’s my fault that happened’.
Here are a couple of examples…
- If you think that you’ll never find love because your last 3 partners cheated, take responsibility for the type of people you’re choosing, the number of chances you’re giving them and power you’re giving them.
- If you think you’re overweight because your parents taught you bad eating habits, take responsibility for your own nutritional education.
4. Check Out Your Chart
While it is a good idea to take responsibility for your own life, it is also handy to get a good idea of the cards you’ve been dealt from the Universe too. Rather than looking at your natal or numerological chart as curses and reasons as to why you feel a certain way or can’t achieve certain things, you should use them to identify the positives.
By identifying the positives, you’ll be able to better understand your challenges and opportunities in this life, and do what you can to make your chart work for you.
While you can work on yourself extensively, you’ll never fully be free of your victim mentality if you don’t forgive those who have caused you to feel this way. Holding onto resentment is actually holding onto the mindset you’re trying to banish. It links you to the trauma and means that you’ve not truly let it go.
By forgiving that person, you set yourself free.
6. Be Grateful
Finally, you need to make sure that you are grateful for what you do have and what you can do. By acknowledging the good, you’ll stop focussing on the bad. And this is classic Law Of Attraction 101. The more you acknowledge and focus on, the more of it you will attract.
This, in itself, is a strong case for getting out of the victim mentality since it shows you how dwelling on the negatives will, in turn, attract more of them to your door.
So, are you ready to release your victim mentality?! Comment YEAH in the comments for an extra boost from your community.