Common Relationship Issues – By the Numbers
We seldom recognize the role we play in the problems that arise in our relationships, simply because we’re too close to them. These issues usually “come with the territory” as learned behaviors we pick up from our circumstances, and adopt easily because of particular patterns in our numerology charts.
That’s both bad and good news – the bad news is that they “ring a bell” with troublesome possibilities in our charts, but the good news is that it’s just as easy to adopt a positive habit as a bad one, making them easy to change.
The Expression, or total name number, is about the magic you send out into the world, while the Life Path is about the response you receive. The thoughts, words and deeds that we use to express ourselves attract circumstances, people and events of a similar nature, because we are constantly creating our own futures.
The universe responds to our self-talk, whether positive or negative, and this is really important when it comes to attracting or maintaining loving relationships. If you think “gosh, I’ll never find a guy like that”, or “I’ll never be the kind of guy she really wants”, you are allowing the unhappiness you fear to sabotage your love-life.
The easiest way to resolve these very common problems is by tuning into the Soul Urge, which is also known as the Heart’s Desire, for this very reason. These Self-Attunements are easy, but today, we will focus on what happens when negative thinking meets the Heart’s Desire.
They are listed according to the Heart’s Desire vibration:
Ones are often so success and achievement oriented that they tend to let personal agendas dictate the terms of a relationship – they may put their expectations of others ahead of empathy toward them.
Twos thrive when in relationships, but sometimes sacrifice too much of themselves for their partners, in the belief that it will help, but healthy relationships depend on mutual support, not co-dependency.
Threes are romantically oriented, but tend to be less grounded in the self – this can make for jealousy and the inability to take ownership of their feelings, because it’s easier to cast blame on the partner.
Fours are sincere and dependable, but more concerned with security than romance – they find it difficult to express their feelings, and will tend to rely on being possessive or dependent, rather than affectionate.
Fives love variety and focus more on companionship and pleasure than stability; they may find it easier to seek enjoyment outside the relationship than to put the necessary amount of work into it.
Sixes are the most domestic and family oriented people, but they are often far too ready to get involved in others problems, and even make sacrifices for others at the expense of their primary relationship.
Sevens are often private and selective, and tend to guide their love-lives by their ideals; many would rather be alone than to accept someone who doesn’t meet their ideals or live up to their expectations.
Eights are courageous and confident, and need “strong” partners, but they also can be controlling and put materialistic concerns above mutual trust, respect and the emotional well-being of their partners.
Nines are compassionate and idealistic, but often are not so romantic – sometimes they may be inattentive and may have a problem with displaying their affection in a way that feels personal to their partners.
Elevens generally make exciting and inspiring partners, but may be overly selective about relationships; they have a hard time with intimacy, although it’s their uniqueness that attracts others to them.
Twenty-Twos like to do things in a big way, but sometimes they tend to focus too much on “the big picture” and forget how to slow down and make ordinary things and events special for their partners.
These are the most common relationship problems that arise when one is closer to with their external situation in life than their inner being – it’s something that all humans bear to some degree, but something that can be worked at, just like relationships.