Last Updated on
Have you noticed what a hot topic Twin Flame Relationships are right now?
Doesn’t it feel like everyone’s either ecstatically coupled up with their Twin Flame, frantically figuring out how to find them, or going through the messy process of untangling themselves from some “false flame” imposter?
If you’re late to the game, check out this article for more details on Twin Flame Relationships, and what the definition of this cosmic love match actually is. (Because this cosmic connection is just a few degrees further on than soulmates are in spiritual matchmaking circles… pah, “soulmates” are so 2000!)
If you haven’t yet jumped onto the spiritual-cuffing bandwagon, it probably feels like time’s slipping away – just when’s your twin flame going to show up, already!? Well maybe your perfect other half IS just around the corner, and it’s actually YOU keeping them at bay? Had you considered that? True, divine love rarely drops from the sky – only in the movies – but if it did, would you even recognize it? And would you be ready to catch it?
The answer could be that you’re probably not, and here are 10 reasons why…
1. You love the idea of Twin flames but you’re not ready for the reality
Sounds like perfection, doesn’t it? Finally finding love so deep and cosmically aligned that you’ve been seeking it for lifetimes? But the reality of the twin flame journey is actually very different – as the mirror to your very own soul, this specific man or woman shows up your flaws, your blocks, your energetic quirks and the issues you’d really rather pretend weren’t there. Twin flames are meant to challenge you – despite what you hear, these relationships aren’t all sunshine and roses – and it could be that you’re just not ready for the reality of making such an intense connection.
2. You’re not being YOU
You’ll only attract your twin flame by being your true self. You and your perfect potential partner won’t reunite if they can’t recognize your frequency. So if you’re living in denial of who you truly are and trying desperately to be somebody else instead, there’ll be no chance! You’ll only leave the singles club once and for all by being you. Wholeheartedly you.
3. You’re holding onto outmoded beliefs about relationships
Whether we like it or not, most of us have some pretty fixed ideas about what love and romantic relationships should look like. How a man should act, the roles a woman should fulfill – these ideas run pretty deep in our cultures. A lot of these come from our parents, and a lot more come from Hollywood. But spiritual love is actually a lot more progressive – and more demanding – than you may think.
Lightworkers are continually shedding layers of programming and our relationships are one of the tools we use to do this. Except when you’re trying to squeeze your ideas about love into a box. In this case, your Twin Flame just isn’t going to fit.
4. You’re not ready to be Vulnerable
Twin Flame relationships ask a lot of people. They need you to open up your soul and let it pour out. The right person will see your vulnerability and it will draw them towards you like a moth to a flame. But if you’re not actually open to the kind of deep connection (and the heartache, insecurities, and unhealed traumas) that your connection will make you hold up in the light for all to see, your twin simply won’t show up.
5. You’re still expecting to be saved
Why do you want to meet your twin flame? Is it because you’re ready for the evolution that your love will bring, or is it because you want them to save you from your current life?
If you’re subconsciously pushing all of the work you know you need to do, onto the idea of this man or this woman, and expecting them to come to your rescue, then you’re living in denial. If your twin flame were to enter into your life at this point, the result would be co-dependency and that’s not what the twin flame journey is all about. Your wholeness will come when you are sovereign, and not when your twin walks into the room.
6. You’re holding onto someone from the past
If your heart still belongs to someone from a previous relationship, the vibration you are holding won’t match your twin’s. It’s as simple as that – in order to love again, you have to surrender the love and affection of the past! So let yourself move through the healing process, and do what it takes to let go and move on.
7. Your heart isn’t open
You may think you’re ready for your twin flame, but how open is your heart? Not just to other new people, but to yourself and your own life stories? One of the first steps on the twinflame journey is practicing true self-love and forgiveness towards yourself.
How much shame are you carrying?
How much disappointment, resentment or feelings of sadness?
When these kinds of emotions stay in the body and aren’t worked through and released, they act as blocks to love – your vibrational frequency stays low, heavy and stuck in duality. Working on loving yourself first is a great way to up your self-worth, open your heart and get ready to receive the relationship you are seeking.
8. You’re attracting the wrong people
Notice any patterns running through your love life? Always attracting bad boys, mummy’s boys or jealous types? Well, I hate to break it to you, but you’re the common strand here – all these guys (or girls) are attracted by the same single something in you. None of these relationships are accidental – they’re all trying to tell you something.
And here’s the thing – the beacon that’s drawing them in could be the exact same thing preventing your twin flame from getting close. The only way they have a chance is if you identify why those bad boys keep walking into your life, and work healing that part first.
9. You’re hanging out in your comfort zone
Think your twin flame’s about to walk right into your sitting room at home? Or sit down next to you at a bar?
If you’re serious about finding that extra special someone, you may need to look further afield than the comfort of your social circle and the places you already frequent every other week.
What kinds of activities would you love to try? What places would you love to go?
Push out the boat, and start doing the things you really resonate with because these are also the things your twin flame twin flame vibes with too.
10. You’re looking too hard.
There’s no better way to push something (or someone) away than to chase it. Are you looking too hard, searching everywhere for twin flame signs, and putting too much expectation on the person you want them to be?
Rein it in.
Focus on you, your life, and being you highest possible version. It’s that person who will act as a magnet for the loved-up life partner you want – and ensure that they find you!
Are you still seeking your twin flame? Are you full of expectation that they’re just around the corner but waiting for the perfect moment to show up?
Or have you recently united with your twin flame, and started the journey together? Share your story below with the community!