Black & White Erotica Sex StyleWhat does Numerology Have to do with Love & Sex?

A lot! Many people use numerology relationship compatibility tests, especially during the early stages of a new relationship. But on a more primal level, knowing your Life Path number—and the Life Path number of a potential love and sex partner – can provide a huge amount of information about our core wants, needs, and propensities in the bedroom.

Many will go first to the Soul Urge Number and look at the compatibility of this number with their partners. And whilst this does have a great deal to say about our most intimate behaviours, think about this: The Life Path doesn’t only refer to the overarching path we take through life.  What about the path through a day, a relationship or a sexual encounter?

Having a thorough understanding of the elements within your own Life Path can really help you to see what you actually need to feel loved, what feels good and what doesn’t, and what you’re capable of offering in a sexual partnering. The Life Path can even offer insight on which techniques and positions could bring greatest sexual satisfaction, as well as helping you explore avenues of sexual healing, including sex therapy or counseling.  Add to this an understanding of your partner’s Life Path and you’ll be well on your way to creating a sexual dynamic to electrify you both in the bedroom!

If you don’t know what your Life Path Number (or the Life Path Number of your love interest) simply follow this link.

Then read on to see what your Life Path Number says about your basic sexual style, and what you could be doing a whole lot better!

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 1

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 1 Life Path, you’re confident, creative, independent, and have a fearless connection with your individuality.

In the bedroom, you prefer to take the lead and thrive with a partner who adores you from every angle. While you take serious pleasure in pleasing your partner, you get a lot of enjoyment and satisfaction when bringing skill and creativity into your sexual experiences. You can be a total “rock star” in bed – learning and mastering ways to perfect your performance. As a “creative,” you often have a high sex drive and a vibrant and active sex life can be a priority.

Key Need: To tap into self-confidence.

Key Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 1 Life Path, your main obstacle manifests in a lack of self-esteem, which often results in you choosing partners who aren’t your equal. While you thrive with a bit of cheerleading from a partner, there is a balance to be had between healthy support and codependence. So ensure that the sexual dynamic you form between you and your long-term partner/s is one of balanced input.

This can swing the other way and sometimes your sexual style can tend to focus on you and your performance rather, than on establishing an emotional connection with a partner. A remedy to this is to deepen into intimacy.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 2

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 2 Life Path, you’re loving, giving and devoted.

In the bedroom, you’re intuitively connected with your partner and instinctively feel their desires and needs. You often merge with your partner so intensely that you can place their needs above your own. You might be a bit “shy” or reserved until you feel fully received, desired, and engulfed by your partners love. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a wild streak! It’s just that you usually have to develop a deep, overall trust in your partner before you can fully let go.

If ever there was a loyal, giving, and willing sexual partner, it’s you. You can be the master or mistress of giving pleasure to your partner. You will derive ultimate satisfaction when you learn how to articulate what you want sexually, and then how to receive it.

Key Need: To love and be loved in return.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 2 Life Path, your main obstacle manifests as losing yourself in sexual relationships. This results in dissatisfaction because you don’t know “who you are” and neither does your partner.

When hurt, you can also withdraw emotionally and sexually, rather than face the source of your pain.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 3

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 3 Life Path, you’re upbeat, witty, and communicative.

In the bedroom, you can be dynamic, passionate, and creative—and you want sex to be a creative exploration into the pleasure of your senses and a delving into the crevices of your emotions. You want nothing more than to please your partner as long as you feel that heightened desire is reciprocated equally. Your lovemaking tends to be playful when you feel a deep connection with your lover. If there’s anyone who might be up for some role-play or something just a little bit deviant, it’s you.

You need to be heard, treasured and acknowledged. You have an exceptional sexual attractiveness and an acute ability to “read” and satisfy your partner…. lucky them!

Key need: To be “heard” and emotionally supported.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 3 Life Path, your main obstacle manifests as miscommunication. Since your Path is all about learning to communicate, this translates into your sex life as well. You can “sext” your partner all day long, readying for a lusty interlude, yet if they say or do one “wrong” thing, all bets are off. Forget it. Your elusive emotional needs can confound your partner.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 4

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 4 Life Path, you’re solid, loyal, and accessible.

In the bedroom, you tend toward the tactile yet practical techniques. Yours is a very “earthy” vibe: You’re a very physically sexual person, wanting and needing a certain amount of sexual engagement in order to feel balanced.

You’re a no-nonsense lover and you know the ropes! You can be masterful with techniques, developing and perfecting certain positions or situations that turn you on; although you might need a partner who’s a bit more experimental than you, in order to open your eyes to trying new things and exploring new experiences. Alternatively, you could be happy and fulfiled with a partner who loves a sense of routine and enjoys a certain predictable, yet satisfying sexual protocol.

Key need: To feel safe and secure.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 4 Life Path, obstacles manifest in an inability to settle and put down roots. Sexually this can present as bed hopping and a fear of emotional connection.

Another danger with the Life Path 4, is falling into a sexual rut.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 5

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 5 Life Path, you’re fearless, adventurous, and versatile.

In the bedroom, you have the same attributes! If there’s anyone built for a rich and adventurous sex life, it’s you. You want to explore it all, feel it all, and revel in the sensual nature of your mind, body, and soul. More than most Life Paths, as a 5, you come into your sexuality hot-and-heavy. It’s likely you’ll have more than your share of sexual partners and sexual experiences. You attract an amazing variety, in terms of partners, practices, and levels of engagement. Often you’re the one who’s up for anything—if you like it, you’ll want more. If you don’t, you’ll move on. Because practice makes perfect, this Life Path has a tendency to develop into a skilled and desirable lover.

Key need: To experience every morsel of sensual pleasure the world has to offer.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 5 Life Path, obstacles manifest as over-indulgence, excess, and escape.

Or alternatively, you experience overriding fear around your sexual expression and opt instead for restricting yourself in this area of your life.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 6

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 6 Life Path, you’re responsible, family-oriented, and magnetic.

In the bedroom, you’re the “cosmic parent” and desire a certain level of perfection with sexual expression. You have high standards for yourself and for your partner, which can translate into exquisite mastery of romantic love. You pay attention to the details—the perfect choice of music, placement of candles, the beautiful bottle of wine.

When you have the desire to hone your sexual magnetism, you can be a (male or female) Casanova. You’re often creative and physically attractive, only adding to your sex appeal.

You crave a deep sense of connection with yourself and with your partner. Even while you may have a certain level of shyness or reserve initially—once engaged with a partner you connect with—sex toys and other forms of sexual engagement aren’t out of the picture.

Key need: To find your soul mate.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 6 Life Path, obstacles can manifest as placing your partner on a pedestal and then becoming increasingly dissatisfied when they’re imperfections are revealed.

You can also default to controlling and judgment, placing a wedge between you and your partner and preventing a satisfying sex life.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 7

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 7 Life Path, you’re mysterious, analytical, and a deep thinker.

In the bedroom, you’re often unpredictable and super-sexy. It’s as though you’re withholding the key to your soul and your lover wants to pry that key out of your hands and access the depths of your heart. Since this is a Path on which you’re learning to connect with your emotions, often your lovemaking can start on a more “head-based” level where you excel at researching (either by actual research or by “researching” your intimate partner in conversation and experientially) how to best give and receive sexual pleasure. As you mature and find a level of trust within yourself and with a sexual partner, there is no limit to the depths of your sexual allure and deep sexual satisfaction.

Key need: To trust your partner and yourself.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 7 Life Path, obstacles can manifest in confusion around what you truly want. You can then give mixed messages to your lover, further compounding the problem.

The 7 is the spiritual seeker and can often find themselves alone for certain phases of time in their lives—not as a punishment, as a choice.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 8

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 8 Life Path, you’re powerful, opinionated, and successful.

In the bedroom, you’re often “large and in charge.” As an 8 Life Path, sex correlates with power and you’re learning all about power—how to develop it, assert it effectively, and reap the benefits from your involvement with it.

You prefer attractive partners who compliment you and your presentation of yourself in the world. You’re highly dynamic and sexually driven. As a lover, you’ll spare no expense in treating your love interest with an intense level of desire and appreciation. You can be a risk-taker and be open to the kinkier side of sexual experience. Since control and authority are also cornerstones for the 8 Life Path, those elements can play out in the bedroom.

You can also be more of the “pillar of the community” and have a more conservative relationship with your sexuality. Either way, you’re a powerhouse in the bedroom!

Key need: To be respected and admired.

The opposition: When not stepping fully into your 8 Life Path, obstacles can manifest when you default into treating relationships in a businesslike fashion, rather than softening and engaging in emotional connection.

You might choose sexual relationships based on gaining status or furthering your “place” in the world. On the other hand, you can struggle with empowering yourself and your sex life will reflect this level of disempowerment.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 9

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 9 Life Path, you’re compassionate, giving, and creative.

In the bedroom, there isn’t anyone more innately romantic than the 9 Life Path. Your goal is to overwhelm your partner with pleasure and you’ll do anything within your power to be known as Prince or Princess Charming. Charismatic and sometimes enigmatic, you can be unpredictable and more than open to various sexual techniques. Toys, watching erotic videos together, going to a nude beach—you’re down for this and much more!

You want to know exactly what your partner wants and you aren’t afraid to actually come out and ask. Even though you’re a giver and will postpone your own satisfaction for your partners benefit, ultimately you make sure your needs are also met.

Key need: To satisfy your partner—and gain love and admiration for it.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 9 Life Path, obstacles manifest in becoming a “rebel without a cause.” The 9 is learning how to give and receive – often the 9 can become an enabler in relationships, resulting in tense or unhealthy sexual dynamics.

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 11/2

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 11/2 Life Path, you’re loving, giving, and devoted. But you can have a level of assertion and of taking the lead that can surprise you!

In the bedroom, you’re the “I want you to want me” lover, needing admiration and unabashed depth of devotion. Yet this can translate as a need for variety and an assortment of different sexual “identities” so playing out your fantasies using toys, accessories and costumes could really help keep the flame alive!

The Master number 11/2 brings a need for deep relationship and yet the double 1’s bring a bit of a conflict to that desire. So you might be somewhat enigmatic in the bedroom—needing to be dominant and in control one day and then submissive and “pleasing” the next.

Key Need: To be acknowledged and appreciated for how special you are.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 11/2 Life Path, your main obstacle manifests as a conflict between wanting to settle down with “the one” and needing to traverse your own path. You can sabotage sexual relationships by getting bored easily or by opting for the spotlight rather than “settling down.”

Love & Sex Style of the Life Path 22/4

If you’re in your groove with the optimum elements of your 22/4 Life Path, you’re devoted, giving, and practical.

In the bedroom, you tend toward monogamy—or serial monogamy. At your core, you want something predictable and satisfying: you’re usually not one for the promise of fads or kinky practices. Your biggest turn-on is your partner having the house clean, making a romantic meal (and cleaning the dishes in the morning!) and having a throw-down on a comfortable bed.

But this isn’t to say that predictable equals boring. Your “slow and steady” tendency in life can translate to electric sex for you and your partner! The need for depth in relationships that the Master number 22/4 brings is intensified by the double 2. Your 4 wants practicality and control while the 2 wants to please and give. You are always willing to learn.

Key need: Safety and security mixed with a partner who can support your endeavors.

The Obstacles: When not stepping fully into your 22/4 Life Path, obstacles can manifest when you choose your career or work over your relationships. This translates sexually, either as keeping sexual encounters at arm’s length or keeping them in a “safe zone” where you aren’t forced into advancing levels of commitment.

Always remember that your sex style isn’t solely defined by your Life Path number. Your personal numerology profile consists of several other influences. So for instance, if you happen to have a 5 Life Path yet the other influences in your chart are 2’s and 4’s, you’ll most likely also express tendencies related to the 2 and the 4, even though you’re learning about and evolving into the 5.

It always pays to dig a little deeper than this first number and see how you personally engage with all the numbers represented in your chart in order to understand certain elements of your personal sexual style. In this way, you’ll gain a fuller picture and be more able to enhance and act upon what ultimately gives you – and your partner – true sexual satisfaction and pleasure.

About Felicia Bender, Ph.D

Felicia Bender Ph.D – The Practical Numerologist is the author of Redesign Your Life: Using Numerology To Create the Wildly Optimal You. She’s passionate about helping people use numerology as a tool to improve their everyday lives. She’s a contributor for The Elephant Journal, The Numinous, and is resident numerologist for See her at

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